More fears and tears were laid at the threshold of my own front door than I would care to admit. More than a simple step or the need for crutches. Fear of not being physically or mentally strong enough. Fear of simply not being enough.Read More
“Failures are the bricks laid on our road to success. Any given failure defines you no more than a single wave defines an entire ocean.”Read More
I forgot about Doctors Day this year. I forgot it was coming. Honestly, I actually forgot it existed. I was lost in a sea of work, patient care and preparing myself and family for my own upcoming surgery. I completely forgot. Until a single text message reminded me in the most powerful way.Read More
Today, my social media accounts are flooded with empowering posts for International Womens Day. I am particularly struggling on this day. I am a passionate advocate for women, inclusion, diversity and equality, but this week, I am tired.
I am tired of the perpetual need to defend my expertise. I am tired of being asked how old I am because I do not look ‘old enough’ to be an attending. I am tired of the demeaning manner in which I am too often treated, as though I am a child and not a successful woman. I am tired of the assumption that motherhood somehow negates my career potential. And, I am tired because I observe so many similar scenarios among my friends, colleagues and coworkers.
Recently, I was acutely reminded yet again of how far we still have to go. After seeing a patient in the hospital and relaying my updates to the nurse, I was asked to repeat who I was. After identifying myself again as the attending physician on the team, I was further asked to clarify this despite showing my badge, noting my name on the chart and finally, ending with leaving to see my next patient, uncertain that I was believed.
Often, if I share such stories, I see looks of disbelief. If I raise the idea that we still have significant gender bias in medicine, based on endless stories such as this or the frank published evidence in the medical literature, I am a disruptor. Being a disruptor can certainly be a lonely place; but whether I am weary or not, whether I am discriminated against or not, I do know that nothing changes if we do not call it out. If we do not raise awareness to the unconscious biases, the stereotypes and the flat out discrimination. Disruption is necessary to fuel change.
Yet, some days, even warriors are weary.
To the women and men working endlessly for equality, I know it does not come ‘tirelessly’.
Thank you. Keep on my friends, weary or not, warriors we remain.
Like it or not, adversity is part of the human experience. Life was not intended to be easy, but created to be filled with obstacles, failures, disappointments and differing levels of adversity.Read More
January is a month full of resolutions, goals and willpower. It is also a month in which I hear the echo of people commenting on how they will be ‘self-disciplined’ this year in order to achieve their goals. I used to be one of those echoes. I used to tout the value of self-discipline. Now, I challenge you to erase self-discipline from your vocabulary.Read More
Announcing Branding Services in 2019!Read More
In 2019, I dare you to spend the year chasing an impossible dream. Dare to try. Dare to fail. Just dare.Read More
No matter what you believe, I hope today, you simply believe.Read More
Can Practicing Grant Writing Make You a Better Creative Writer?Read More
Facing grief with gratitude may be one of the most valuable lessons learned in 2018.Read More
This year, I am giving myself 3 Christmas gifts that will change my life.
What is on your Christmas list?Read More
I will never regret a moment of my education, of the experiences I have sought or of those I strive to bring to my children. However, there is a price to pay in chasing such dreams. Inevitably, time changes everything. So does education.Read More
How do you remain sharp? A master of your craft?Read More
Strong is beautiful. We can be fierce, quiet, bruised, muddy, playful, serious. We can be all the things. We must remind each other, and our children, that this is the truth.
Buy this book. Give it as a gift. Remind someone, or yourself, of the strength, beauty and wisdom in all of us.Read More
How are you living today? Intentionally or with a list of good intentions?
Do you know the difference?Read More
A quick reading novel that is funny, quirky and weaves a little science, medicine, humanity and love into you favorite end of summer escape!Read More
I always loved the transition of carefree summer days into the colorful array of new crayons, highlighters, crisp notebooks and the expected evolution of the leaves into their fiery form. This is such an exciting time and, in my opinion, so much better than New Years for making resolutions.Read More
I thought about the concept of flexibility, to bend without breaking, and how much this same concept applies to life.Read More
Our thoughts drive every action (or inaction) and result. Have you taken an inventory of your thoughts? Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset , is a fantastic book to get you started on the frame work in which you think everyday.Read More